Nigeria Is Eating Her Children

We talk, shout, say the same things over and over, we know we need to pay attention - but we don’t. Why this deafness to our own alarm bell?

Nigeria is governed by three desires: greed, envy, and the most undignified of the three, fear. All our politicking, our hustling, our frantic japa-ing all flow from these three springs. Even the quality we are most often praised for - our famous ambition, our ingenuity, the "drive" that foreign visitors never stop remarking on - it is not at all clear that any of it is really ours.

We may simply be the greediest, the most bitter, and (above all, and least flatteringly) the most fearful people alive. Which, to be fair, is not by itself a catastrophe; every civilization on earth is moved to some degree by these same urges. The feelings are universal; it is what we do with them that differs.

We have individually brilliant people, but together, we lack a culture of brilliance. Why do we not meaningfully gather into a collective? Why does our fear not push us into the protective huddle that fear, in other places, has always known how to build?

The great empires and civilisations in history all figured out how to harness greed and fear, yoke them like stubborn oxen, and deploy them into systems that protected the whole. America is, first and above all, an idea -  the country is a mere scaffolding built around the idea. Great Britain, at the height of her imperial self-regard, was held up by the celestial conviction that she had been chosen to rule the earth. I lived for a while in China -  a civilisation that reinvented itself inside forty years - and what I saw there was a grassroots, almost devotional belief in a shared national project. Our own mythology, by contrast, begins and ends at our compound gate.

The 2027 elections are here, and there’s much ado about it, but politics will not rescue Nigeria. It is an old truth that every people get the leaders they deserve, and Nigeria has the leaders we’ve all earned. Pick a random handful of everyday Nigerians from any street in Lagos or Onitsha or Kano, shuffle them, deal them out as rulers, and you will arrive, with mathematical certainty, at the same type of leaders we have always produced. Our leadership is the average of the collective risen to the top.

Even Nigerians do not trust Nigerians. You scarcely can employ a Nigerian without a permanent crick in your neck from looking over your own shoulder. I have hired, in the last decade, somewhere near 400 people in Nigeria; of these, at least 3 in every 10 have either stolen from me outright or broken their contracts by moonlighting on my time - running, from the seat of my payroll, a second and sometimes a third livelihood.

And the sickness is not limited to the salaried. I recently hired a plumber to fix a modestly leaking joint in the roof of my Lagos house; four hours after he left, my upper floor was under two feet of water. I can say, with certainty, that I did not have two feet of water on that floor when I called him. To his credit, I could now swim on the first floor - which is more than most Lagosians can say of their own homes.

You can count on the average Nigerian to leave any object, any premises, any institution, worse than he met it. So, this is not some special disease of the political class; it is now - and I say this with reluctance - Nigerian culture.

Once upon a reasonable time, a good education was the bridge by which a young person crossed into a bearable future. You immersed yourself in a pool of equally ambitious peers, built an identity in their company, graduated into the civil service or the private sector, started a family, and passed on a set of values to your children. It was never exactly easy; but for those with grit and ambition, the path was straightforward. And because the path was straightforward, grit and ambition grew in abundance.

But now, that bargain has been dismantled. What remains is a country full of people with ferocious ambition and nothing to apply it to. No real industry, limited enterprise, and certainly no public service worth the name. Worse, there are no moral guardrails on ambition. That’s pitiful.

Nigeria must become a society in which the average person can flourish. We are asking far too much of our young - demanding from every teenager the cunning of a serpent and the stamina of a mule. Young Nigerians are now starting families later. Poverty, greed and the ensuing aimlessness midwifing this delay. 

I confess that I’m worried about the children being born into this country right now. I worry that our generation of parents lacks both the skill and the moral steadiness to raise a generation capable of the rescue. I’m worried that the infrastructure of demonic intelligence that afflicts Nigeria continues to improve at a rate more exponential than we have solutions for. Above all, I worry that most of the young people of this generation will never once, in the full span of their lives, meet themselves at their full potential.

The spirit of the young Nigerian has been amputated.

What then rescues us? 

For any society to be worth the name, each member must have a reasonable path to economic dignity, and the whole must be held together by shared moral responsibility. The state can help with the former; the latter can only be summoned by the society itself. Three things 

First: a new moral order. We must de-throne money. That shining idol, sitting at the centre of every Nigerian shrine, public and private, must be pulled down from its throne. I’m not advocating for its banishment, that would be both impossible and foolish, but we must relocate it. Reduce it to a tool, stripped of its current status as the measure of the worth of a human life.

Second: young Nigerians must be paid more money. A great many of the problems we experience will shrink if young Nigerians had any real measure of economic dignity. They would start families earlier; take out mortgages; support their relatives; start small businesses; take on social responsibilities; look after their communities - because they would belong. And people who belong are far less likely to become thieves, bandits, kidnappers, illegal emigrants, idle loiterers, catcallers, bloodthirsty herdsmen, drunkards, drug addicts, homeless, prostitutes, ballot-box snatching thugs, gamblers, ritualists, area boys, bitter incels, unfaithful spouses, misogynists, misanthropes, moonlighters, incompetents, fraudsters, pedophiles, absent parents, violent police officers - and did I say ballot box snatching thugs? Maybe I mention them twice because, in the accounting of our national miseries, they have earned compound interest.

I don't want to oversimplify the complexity of this money problem, but two things are immediately doable. 

  • The labor market needs to pay young people more. At our top twenty companies, salaries as a share of revenue sit at around 7%. Seven per cent - and that includes senior leadership. By comparison, American firms pay out two to five times more to their employees. I will grant the obvious caveat: our enterprise giants cluster in capital-heavy sectors (oil, cement, telecoms), whereas the American comparisons lean toward the labour-heavy (retail, healthcare, logistics). However, the figures below are still grotesque:

    • ~40–55% of Nigerians under 30 are unemployed or underemployed. This almost certainly understates the reality, since the National Bureau of Statistics, in its generosity, counts as "employed" anyone who has one hour of paid work in any given week.

    • 85% of Nigerians earn below N100,000 monthly, and only 2.4% of Nigerians earn above N200,000 monthly.

    • The minimum wage (which 80% of the population doesn’t reach) only covers 5% of living expenses in Lagos. 

In 2026! This means that there is no hope in hell for a young Nigerian to ever own property, to raise a family, to educate the children of that family, or to rest from labour for so much as a single undisturbed afternoon.

  • The cost of living, in step, must come down - on three fronts especially: rent, food, transport. Nigeria offers the world one of its stranger paradoxes: at once the poverty capital of the planet (a trophy we’ve won from the Brookings Institution) and, in the person of Lagos, the third most expensive city on earth relative to local income (Numbeo's).

And this is not work for corporations or the government alone. If you personally employ a cook, a gardener, a driver; if you buy from the hawker at your window or the woman who braids your hair - pay them well. In that tiny corner of society where you are president, how are your citizens faring? What will they say of your reign when they go to sleep at night? We are all, each of us, running a small republic of one kind or another. The question is whether ours is the sort of republic a citizen would willingly stay in, or the sort they would cross a desert to flee. A culture that rewards people is built by every small sovereign deciding, in the privacy of his own little kingdom, that the people in it will eat.

Third: we must allow - and indeed encourage - young people to do the work they love. I clearly remember the pleasure of competing with my schoolmates as a boy, and later as a university debater; I saw brilliance then in its wild state, unbroken, still crackling with its own electricity. Yet nearly all those brilliant companions of mine had the brilliance wrung out of them, in time, by the grinding need to chase money. The fault was not theirs.

I find myself constantly wondering what kind of country this might become if we allowed our remarkably gifted young people to follow their real interests, however odd, however unpromising those interests might look to their guardians. If we reduce every human being to an economic-pursuit machine - and I use the phrase deliberately, because that is exactly what we have been manufacturing - how richly has the experiment rewarded us? Let us look at the harvest and be honest about its taste.

From a very young and impressionable age, Nigerian children are told to choose careers based on projected financial return. Their innocence is taken from them early. They are recast as vehicles for the delivery of future earnings, and it is precisely here - at this early initiation - that the seeds of the kleptomania we later lament are planted. A child is told: if you study this, in ten years you will afford rent, and maybe a car, and you will not be a disgrace to the family name. The child swallows the threat and begins to labour against a future debt they never took. They are chasing the shadow of a creditor who does not exist.

It is hardly surprising, then, that on reaching any position of proximity to resources, such a person pillages and plunders. They steal from their employer, drain the state coffers, enter romantic relationships with people double their age - all out of fear. Fear of a ghostly future that was drummed into them as teenagers. And greed is just fear wearing its shopping clothes.

We will not amount to much as a society if we have not first produced individuals who are alive -  individuals striving, in their own names and on their own terms, toward the good. I remember my first visit to San Francisco, and the shock of noticing how much self-belief the young there seemed to carry around with them. It just made sense.

If you are lucky enough to be a steward of young people - as a parent, aunt, uncle, cleric, or employer - your sacred task is to help them discover what they are great at, to support them through the long apprenticeship of sharpening it, and to hold them accountable to their love of it over the years. Or, failing that, to perform the second-best act of stewardship available to you:

Get out of their way.

What I Wish I Knew at the Beginning of 2023

Every year, I engage in a reflective exercise, writing an annual review that I share with intimate friends and mentors. In the process of preparing this year's review, I reflected on the significant life lessons I've learned and decided to compile a different list to share publicly.

Although many of these themes have been integral to my life for several years, my conviction in them deepened through firsthand experience this year. Everything here is easier to do when you’re young and are on a trajectory of some sort. But much of it applies to anyone.

Identifying Strengths

It is important to identify what aligns well with your strengths. Achieving this through self-reflection alone can be challenging. Ideally, seek input from mentors or friends you trust who can provide insights into your areas of strength.

The environment and the people you surround yourself with profoundly impact the development of your strengths. It’s important to be around those who have a keen sense of the future.

Being in the company of such people who not only entertain wild and improbable plans but also exude optimism can be a game-changer. They see possibilities where others see roadblocks, and that mindset can be infectious.

I struggle to think of a better way to identify and hone your strengths than by associating with people who have a high idea flux, and most importantly, aren't overly concerned about what others think.

Possessions

The universe is funny.

First, it offers a man a thing to see what he is really like. If he gives it back, then it gives him more. If he clings to it, it takes it away.

Good Ideas

As opposed to what I believed a few years ago, I've come to realize that genuinely good ideas are not abundant.

The most exceptional ideas often seem so simple, making you question why no one has pursued them. Seemingly straightforward ideas are frequently overlooked due to their apparent simplicity.

The reason why good ideas are limited in supply is that most good ideas are only good ideas in retrospect. They require a significant amount of work to become good ideas, so we have an intuitive sense of their complexity at scale.

There are a lot of ideas that were good on paper and turned out to be bad ideas and the same is the other way around. Airbnb is a popular example of an idea that is good, but only in retrospect. In 2008, the idea of having strangers sleep under the same roof as your kids did not seem like a good idea. It took a lot of work to make that idea a good idea - because the founders had a strange belief in the idea and singlemindedly pursued it, even when it seemed crazy.

Embrace your strange and unique interests—strange is good. Strange tastes often mean you're really on to something, and that passion will make you super productive. Look where not many people look, and you're likely to discover new things.

When you discover new things, do not water your excitement down because you’re worried about what other people will think, or how it makes you look. Anytime you think of something that seems simple but hasn’t been pursued, you should pay attention.

At the very worst, you’ll learn more about why it hasn’t been pursued. At best, you have the seed of a massively successful endeavor.

Conviction

“But if you have doubts about whether or not you should eat something, you are sinning if you go ahead and do it. For you are not following your convictions. If you do anything you believe is not right, you are sinning.” - Romans 14:23.

An effective way to build conviction is by taking the time to actively explore the unique things that genuinely pique your curiosity. The more niche, rare, and seemingly obscure, the better. The greatest opportunities to build conviction lurk in those offbeat interests, often dismissed as too niche.

The mistake I’ve often made is simply skimming the surface of my interests, especially when they are unpopular or may be perceived by others as above or below me. The more you lean into your intrinsic interests, the quicker your convictions develop. And I’ve realized that this is contagious; conviction spreads to other aspects of your life, personally and professionally. Many things can pull you off course when building conviction, especially around what to do with your life. Like trying to impress others, following trends, fear, chasing money, getting caught up in politics, or doing what others want.

But if you focus on what truly interests you, none of these things can mislead you. If you're into it, you're on the right track.

Independent Thinking

The most scarce resource in our generation is the capacity for independent thinking. The easiest way to differentiate yourself in any field of endeavor is to be someone who attempts to think independently.

There’s a triple reason why this is important: first, thought is synonymous with moral personhood. You’re unable to fully unlock who you could be as a human being without independent thought. You will remain an average of the overall net intelligence of the group.

The fact that there’s only a few people thinking independently means that you’ll have very few competitors for scarce resources and attention. Finally, independent thought is an intrinsic source of meaning: it carves out a space for continuous self-refinement, allowing you to evolve as your thoughts evolve. It is not merely a means to an end but a journey that inherently enriches your human experience.

Self-belief

Self-belief is the most powerful overlooked weapon for value creation. It is directly proportional to your capacity for independent thinking and vice versa. Growing up in Calabar, I thought very highly of those who went to school at the best universities in the world and wanted to be like them. When I began traveling across the world for competitive debate and spending time with students across the world as a , I remember feeling disappointed by how little self-belief some of them seemed to have. Now I think I understand it.

Developing self-belief after experiencing success can be challenging if not cultivated from the outset. Throughout this year, there were several moments where my self-belief suffered, and my past achievements failed to provide solace. The insight shared in the last point of this article, however, proved to be my saving grace.

We’ll achieve greater things as a collective if we enable more competent people to develop self-belief. Your sense of self-belief gets stronger over time as you make decisions that prove you right (or wrong), so it’s important to start developing this as early as you can.

However, self-belief does not replace competence when it comes to creating value. Incompetent self-belief is foolhardiness. So, competence is critical. The point here is that you may not actualize the maximum gifts of your potential if your competence is not matched with sufficient self-belief.

Focus

It’s worth spending a lot of time figuring out what to work on.

Finding our life’s work usually takes a few years of tinkering. However, it requires patience and the humility to accept the ambiguity that comes with tinkering. We’re better served by figuring out what we should work on, especially if you’re someone who could easily have alternatives. When your direction is right, you can go from being good to being great by grinding and putting in the hours, but if your direction is off, no amount of time and effort will yield any meaningful results.

Being Bold

Being bold works wonders. The reason why getting started is usually the hardest is because it’s the loneliest phase of the journey. You have to make the decision, build conviction, and go from 0 - 1 on your own. No one else can do that for you.

However, once you get past the starting line, you often realize that there’s an army of people waiting on the other side to support you. People have a good recognition instinct for bold effort, and more people are willing to support bold effort than people are willing to tear them down. But you have to get started to find out the precise proportion.

You also have to realize if you’re the sort of person who enjoys going from 0 -1 or 1 - 100. It's a unique gift to be both.

It’s critical to identify where you play the best, as it allows you to be bold in a productive manner. There are unproductive ways to be bold. Recklessness, mania, poor planning, and unwillingness to accept feedback, are some examples of unproductive boldness - they rarely yield any meaningful results.

Dexterity

Dexterity simply means the skill in performing tasks . I recently discovered the concept of “Intelligence’ in Igbo epistemology. The Igbo word for intelligence is a compound word “ako-n’uche”; translated to English means “craft and thought”. But it means more than that, it means the human ability to solve problems and create new things.

In the Igbo knowledge system, an intelligent person is one who can make things and think — in that order. Ako-n’uche is not an adjective reserved to describe some intelligent people, it is something we all have. If there is a criticism of us sometimes, it is that we don’t use it.

I believe this to be the case. The utility of your knowledge is limited until it creates something, used by you, or others.

If you had to choose, it’s preferable to be someone who creates things, than someone who knows things. If you’re competent, it’s probably easier to be someone who knows things, because it’s relatively low-risk and quickly confers status in certain domains. For example, it’s much lower risk - and sometimes, higher status - to be a professor of war history, than it is to fight wars.

Becoming someone who creates things, no matter how small, makes the learning process much more efficient: you naturally become more curious, study faster with higher retention, and often tend to be happier. As I have realized, the process of creating organizes your perception around a goal that provides a container for negative emotions.

Divine Alignment

Working in alignment with God’s purpose makes life most meaningful. No true meaning can be found outside of God’s will. Different people describe God differently. For some, it’s the universe, providence, conscience, karma. They all point to some form of transcendental truth that necessarily exists.

However, it is important to find the greatest conceivable transcendental truth as early as you can. Everyone eventually turns to God at some point in their life, the problem is that some don’t do it soon enough.

As someone who spent the past 10 years being flaccid about this subject, I underestimated how important this was for filling the gaps in my knowledge and alleviating unnecessary suffering that stemmed from the finitude of my human mind.

While these are not complete and exhaustive reasons to attain alignment with God, it’s a permissible selfish reason to begin the journey. Eventually, your horizon of understanding will be expanded to overtake the selfish reasons why you began the journey. Some people only realize this on their deathbeds. I think it’s better to not.

Finding an assembly of others who are genuinely striving for progress in the faith is a good way. There is a striving for progress that isn’t virtuous. It’s mere virtue-signalling. You should avoid communities like that. When searching for communities, it's crucial to consider the visionary leader - often the Pastor - and grasp the scriptural basis of their vision. I find interpretive skills, particularly in hermeneutics, to be of utmost importance. 

To quote Peter Abelard, the medieval French philosopher after he was prosecuted for heresy and condemned to death by the Ecclesiastical Council at Sens in 1141: “I do not want to be a philosopher if it is necessary to deny Paul. I do not want to be Aristotle if it is necessary to be separated from Christ ”